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Autism Q&A: "How to connect with my autistic son?"



You have tried all kind of therapies out there, from behaviour to speech to occupational, but deep down, you know something is missing - that connection and relationship with your child. The time you spent chauffeuring them from one session to another and not forgetting, the cost of these therapies, and yet you can't seem to build and establish a strong connection with your child.

Here are some feedbacks from parents:


"I don't know how to play with my child without having to bribe them with candies or rewards."


"I don't understand my child. I feel like I've failed as a parent."


"I don't feel connected with my son."


"One minute he's there, another minute he's not. I don't know what to do."

Many parents with autistic children share these same experiences. Getting engagement and eye contact can be one of the most rewarding experience for parents with special needs children. But, to achieve that can be challenging and draining. It is not because they are bad parents; they simply don't know the right way to guide neurodiverse children. Here are some common obstacles faced by ASD parents:

  • Parents don't know how to do activities with their ASD child

  • Parents find it difficult to maintain engagement with their ASD child without constant instructions, prompt and rewards

  • ASD child does not listen to parents

  • ASD child doesn't know how to connect with parents


When children spent most of their time with therapists, you can't help but wonder, "why my child can perform at therapy, but not at home with me?" That real connection you longed for with your children is still missing, and it's making you feel helpless and disappointed. Parents often feel they have lost confidence in being the primary guide to their child.


What if I tell you the best intervention your child can have is at home with you? Not therapy or special needs centre or school, but YOU. You are the best guide for your children. Here's why.

  • Learning how to answer scripted questions can be learned at school or therapies. But learning how to build relationships and communicate dynamically (experience sharing, analysing, problem-solving) starts at home with you. You can guide children to connect and engage through daily activities together like eating, walking at the garden, or house chores.

  • The home environment creates a safe and secure learning condition for autistic children to thrive. At home, rather than focusing on teaching children to perform scripted and static behaviours (school or therapies), you can focus on building and strengthening loving relationships with children.


We believe that all special needs parents are very much capable of guiding their ASD children. They only need to be shown how. In Relationship Development Intervention (RDI), we can show you how. The ultimate goal in RDI is to guide the development of dynamic intelligence in ASD children that allows them to thrive and enhance their quality of life in this complex world we are living in.


In RDI, we want parents to be the ones who really become the experts in their children rather than the professionals. Because we believe that parents are the designer of the child's neural integration and how you interact plays a significant role in impacting the development of children's neural growth. In short, only YOU can build meaningful experiences and foster healthy relationship bonds with their child.


RDI is a parent-coaching program that guides parents to gradually rebuild the foundations of the guiding relationship that have been affected by ASD. We will teach you how to create customised experiences that focus on giving the child the mental and emotional abilities to survive in this dynamic world.


Learn more about RDI here and schedule a free 30-minutes initial consultation with us.

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