Updated: Dec 30, 2020
What the year 2020 has been and in a glimpse of an eye is already in our last month of the year. Parenting has not been easy for parents this year, from WFH to homeschooling, is like a neverending roller coaster for many families. But, 2020 has also taught us to be a more patient and resilient parent. So pat yourself in the back because you have made it this far and conquered all the ups and downs of 2020.
As the new year approaches, we are so ready in bidding 2020 goodbye and welcome 2021 in a positive note. It is also important to reflect our past parenting moments and remind ourselves to be that positive parent for our family. New Year's resolutions often never get past February, so here are 5 simple reminders to help get you through parenting in 2021.
1 - Slow Down and Be Present
Today, we are living in such a fast-paced world. We often speed by our day and forget to slow down to appreciate the things around us. Most importantly, we're so preoccupied with all the back-to-back mundane routines and busy worrying about the future, we forgot to be present. Children grow up quickly, and when we put all of our focus in their future, we will lose our chance to spend precious moments with them.
Let 2021 be the start of your mindful parenting journey. Slow down and take one step at a time. Put aside personal workloads, children's schoolwork and chores, and start having quality time with your kids.
2 - Listen More, Talk Less
In 2021, let's put away these outdated parenting phrases - "do as I say" or "listen to me". Instead, parents can take up a balancing role of both a listener and a talker. Children's behaviour is a form of communication, and they are trying to tell us something through their actions. As parents, it is important to look beyond those behaviours and listen to what they have to say before jumping into conclusion that they are bad kids.
This new year, we can be good listeners. Let's give children a chance to express themselves freely about their emotions and experiences.
3 - Keeping Your Cool
We all know 2020 has been a difficult year for everyone. We may have lost our cool too many times this year at our kids. Let's reflect from that and learn to keep our cool this new year. Children may test our patience from time to time, it is important to pause before we react. Calm ourselves first by walking away and taking a few deep breaths. Once you're calmed, you can then return to your child and talk about what just happened. Children listens better when you're regulated.
4 - Unplug and Connect
Are you and your kids spending way too much time on screens? If yes, then it is time to unplug from digital devices and connect with your family more. This new year, encourage yourself and the kids to break away from screens and spend more quality time together. You can have baking sessions and board game nights together. Most importantly, eating meals together without looking at screens. You can even get your family out of the house and go for nature walks, picnic or do simple outdoor sports together.
5 - Take Care of Yourself
You can't pour when your cup is empty. That's why your needs are just as important as your children's. Often, parents sacrifice everything they have for their kids, they forget about themselves. They forget to meet their own needs. You, just like everyone else, deserve to have some peace and quiet time to yourself. This new year, take time to recharge and rejuvenate. Read books, go for massages and facial, exercise, eat healthily and have enough sleep. Because you matter too.
Become the parent you've always wanted to be this new year!